Monday, January 24, 2011

my 2 cents for the day...

Over the weekend Matt and I went to a poker night with a bunch of Officers and their wives from the ship. It was a really good turnout and a lot of fun. And seeing that deployment is right around the corner, that came up in conversation a lot. Now, nobody likes deployment. duh right? Who wants to be separated from their family, their friends, their home, a real shower, and a live in a room no larger then a prison cell?! Deployment is not easy on the service member or their family, both parties suffer in different ways. But, deployment is a way of life in the military, it happens to all service members, and there is no way to avoid it. So my question is, why would you (as a wife) proceed to torment and yell at your husband about going on deployment as if its all his fault?! (in public no less) Yes he volunteered for the Navy, but you knew that when you married him. Did you think he could just be a SWO and never go on deployment? I'm sorry, but do you live under a rock? I realize we are all upset about our husbands leaving, but I do not think taking it out on him is the best idea. It's only going to cause more problems for both of you. And imagine how he feels? I'm sure he doesn't want to go and then having a nagging complaining wife to top it off....poor guy.

So my advice to all the wives out there (take it with a grain of salt, this is my first deployment) is support and love your husband. He needs it just as much as you do. He is stuck at work 24 hours a day, living in a prison cell with at least one other person, showering in icky stalls with flip flops everyday, and he can't even have a beer after a long day. can you imagine? While he is there, we are at least in the comfort of our own home, with our children/pets/family to keep us company, and we have the freedom to go out to eat or have a glass of wine if we want. No we do not have them by our side physically, but we do emotionally. You need to stay strong and support each other the best you can. He has enough to worry about and doesn't need a bitter angry wife at home to top it off.

My 2 cents for the day....

2 comments:

Meredith said...

I think your two cents make a lot of sense! You have a very good perspective and I think it's worthwhile to share it. And remember, if deployment ever gets too hard and your west coast family and friends get old, you've got us east coasters! :)

First Lady C said...

Awww thanks Mer-bear!! We definitely need a girls trip or something :). love you!