Friday, April 29, 2011

...and we're off!!

The day has finally arrived....we are off to Puero Vallarta!! Seriously, the last few weeks have never felt longer. I am so happy to be able to take a short vacation and spend some time with family. Beach, sun, scuba diving, drinks, relaxation. And while I love you all...I do not plan on posting anything while on vacation. I do hope to return with some good stories and some amazing pictures though! Something for everyone to look forward to!

For now....just a sneak peak at the Puerto Vallarta beach:

Hasta Luego!!!

p.s. we do have a house sitter....so don't even think about having a party at our place while we're gone! :)

Thursday, April 28, 2011

love homework: a song for my man

Matty,

I could not imagine my life without you. I would not change a thing. I love you so much and am so happy to be able to share my life with someone as amazing as you. Here is a song for you...



When we first met I didn't want to be in a relationship. I was tired of the games and the drama. I had been down the broken road too many times. I wanted to be just me, single, living on my own, experiencing all life has to offer. I was in the "I don't need a man" mode. And I have no idea why, but you took all that attitude as a huge challenge. You fought for me, spent time with me, convinced me to give you a chance. I really do believe that everything happens for a reason. You came into my life at exactly the right time. Any sooner and it may not have worked out. I needed to experience other relationships, finish college, be single, go through some breakups. I learned a lot, about myself and about life. It has made me the person I am today, a better wife, partner and friend. Everything was worth it because it lead me straight to you.....

I love you so much!!!

~Wifey



Wednesday, April 27, 2011

military life wednesday: song inspiration

We all have good days and bad days. In the beginning of deployment I had more bad than good, but lately its been just the opposite. It's definitely better, but sometimes I still need a little inspiration, especially when something goes wrong. Like today....

Our Jeep has a small radio issue, and one of the electronic keys needs to be replaced. Today on my lunch I was planning on swinging by the dealership and taking care of those (or at least getting a real estimate). So, I throw my stuff into the Jeep and take off for work. I get around the corner when I realize I forgot the broken key. I head back home, park the Jeep, get out and grab the key from the house. I get back in the Jeep and it won't start. Radio won't turn on, doors won't lock, car won't even attempt to turn over. Lovely. Matt is gone, I hate car issues, FML. (I am the girl on the side of the road with a flat, balling her eyes out. Seriously hate all car issues.) I try everything and then say screw it and take Hillary (my Honda) to work. On my way in I discuss the issue with Rachel and she thinks it is a loose battery connection. Not so bad (I hope). I plan to go home on my lunch and try to fix it....please oh please let it work! I do NOT want to tow it in to the shop. And right before vacation....ugh!! Is it just me or does everything seem to go wrong as soon as your husband leaves for deployment?

To help me feel better and to give me a little boost of confidence I play Rascal Flatts "Stand":

You feel like a candle in a hurricane
Just like a picture with a broken frame
Alone and helpless
Like you've lost your fight
But you'll be alright, you'll be alright

Cause when push comes to shove
You taste what you're made of
You might bend, till you break
Cause its all you can take
On your knees you look up
Decide you've had enough
You get mad you get strong
Wipe your hands shake it off
Then you Stand, Then you stand


Life's like a novel
With the end ripped out
The edge of a canyon
With only one way down
Take what you're given before its gone
Start holding on, keep holding on


Cause when push comes to shove
You taste what you're made of
You might bend till you break
Cause it's all you can take
On your knees you look up
Decide you've had enough
You get mad, you get strong
Wipe your hands, shake it off
Then you stand, then you stand


Everytime you get up
And get back in the race
One more small piece of you
Starts to fall into place
Oh

Cause when push comes to shove
You taste what you're made of
You might bend till you break
Cause it's all you can take
On your knees you look up
Decide you've had enough
You get mad, you get strong
Wipe your hands, shake it off
Then you stand, then you stand

That song really inspires me. I can and will take care of everything that goes wrong! I can handle anything that gets thrown at me (I hope!) and I will make it through. And every time I do something that normally Matt would handle, I gain a little independance, self confidence, and knowledge.

Monday, April 25, 2011

weekend recap: easter bunch

After all the planning and prep work and coordination, Easter was perfect! Friends and family came over, we had some food, some drinks, and lots of laughs....

Our beautiful set-up!
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it's raining men!
puppy love
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Thanks everyone for coming over and making it an Easter to remember! I don't think I've laughed that hard in such a long time! It was so much fun....some of you just wouldn't leave! haha! Great memories. Let's do it again next year! :)

Thursday, April 21, 2011

my love homework: revisit an old memory

For my love homework this week Matt and I are supposed to look through photos and revisit an old memory together that makes us smile. Instead of pestering him with emails of photos "what about this one?", "lets discuss how fun this was", I decided to just select one myself, and surprise Matt! He can enjoy the memory from my perspective and hopefully get a good laugh out of it.

It took me a while to select just one. I had a few favorites but this one beat out the competition because as I sat in my office yesterday reliving the experience, I busted out laughing. Sold! [Disclaimer: this is one of my favorite memories of all time. It always makes me laugh, but Matt is the main participant of this event. So it is sorta one of my favorite memories of him] Enjoy!

The picture:

The Event: Our Rehearsal Dinner. This photo was taken mid dinner as my MOH, my sister, got Matt and I some drinks: a blow job and a muff diver. And we had to drink them without using out hands. It wasn't too difficult for me, truth be told, it wasn't my first time with a blow job shot. Matt however had a little more difficulty....look at the size of his drink! We did our best and toasted to our wedding in the process.

That drink was just the first of many that night, and all of those combined led to the best rehearsal dinner ever. EVER.  After many celebratory drinks, and a little dancing:


we were kicked out of our private room. So we all made our way down to the bar below and continued the party! Beer, shots, dancing....good times. And since the bride and groom were obviously too intoxicated to drive (see video above as proof), the man of the hour, Joe, drove us home. Matt and I sat in the backseat with my friend Samyjo, and Jessica sat shotgun to supervise the driving. As we get on the freeway Matt rolls his window down. brrrrr. So I tell him to roll it up! His response "I need the fresh air" and he proceeds to stick his entire head out the window. Yep, just like a dog. Then he starts yelling at Joe to slow down over and over again. Note: pretty sure if your head is out the window the car will appear to be going faster than it is. Being the good guy that he his, Joe slows down. We are probably going 55mph (or less) on the freeway by now. Then all of a sudden Matt vomits out the window. While we are on the freeway. Puke is now running down the side of the Jeep and all along the back windows. It is not pretty. I feel bad for the cars next to or behind us. Sorry random cars.

We immediately take the next exit and pull into a gas station to evaluate the situation. OMG it was everywhere. The gas station attendants first words to us "that is DISGUSTING". Yes sir, it is. We all pile out of the car (because of course we have to pee!) and good ol Samyjo decides to help tidy up. She grabs the squeegie and tries to clean the puke off the car. She also manages to get it all over her shoes (open toe'd). Classy. I really wish we had a video camera with us that night to capture it all. Hil-arious. After we are assured by Matt that there will be no more puking we all get back in and make our way home. Eventually we pull up to our condo and Matt and I climb out. Matt turns around, looks at the car and whispers to me "uh oh look what I did to their car", and I have to tell him "Oh no honey, that's OUR car!".

After all that you would assume a hangover was guaranteed. Not for my Matty. He woke up bright and early at 7am, got dressed, took a 3 mile run to go get our car from the hotel, went to the car wash, got breakfast, and returned home. I was truly amazed. If it had been me, I would have been dragged down the aisle with a bucket in hand. And after all that craziness the night before, everything for the wedding went perfectly. We obviously didn't drink very much that night, but we were drunk on love so we didn't need to!

love

Wednesday, April 20, 2011

military life wednesday: planning the reunion...

...when deployment isn't even half over yet. I know, I know, seems a little early. But, in my opinion, you can never be too prepared.

The first thing I did to prepare for Matt's return is order the welcome home sign! Super exciting! That was one thing that HAD to be done early. The first available shipping date is 8 weeks out (mid June). Of course I selected that as my "need by date" just in case something goes wrong. Or in case it turns out ugly and I need to order a new one. Bonus, the company gives you the first sign/banner for free. All you have to do is pay for shipping, and then find a neighbor to help you hang it. haha.

For spouses, family, or friends of a deployed military member, here is the link:
Build a Sign

My next plan of action, figure out how/when Matt was coming home. Normally this would all be determined by the Navy and the ships schedule, which is still mostly true, but we have a special case on our hands. Matt is the best man in his brother's wedding, which just happens to be right around the ships scheduled return date. It makes it impossible to make it to the wedding if we wait for the ship to pull in to San Diego. So, we are discussing other options. One of those may require a plane ticket, another option may not (I know this is all vague, but I'm trying not to break any OPSEC rules). Of course the sooner he can be home the better....can we all say 2nd honeymoon!?!! Still lots to be decided on this one...

And in the same breath I was evaluating my PTO at work. I want to have a day or so of extra time off so I can use it as needed around his return date. It doesn't look too promising, but I'm pretty sure the "my husband is returning home from deployment" excuse will work, even if the day off has to be unpaid. I'm going to 3 weddings this year, and we have a long babymoon planned, so not a lot of extra time off lying around. Its ok though, the situation might not be ideal, but it will work.

My final plan of attack (right now): get my welcome home outfit! Still too soon? Never too soon to shop!! Ok, ok, I will keep my eye out for inspiring pieces, but hold off for a few more months before I purchase anything. I think that's a fair compromise. 

Come on time, pass faster so my baby can finally be home!!!

Monday, April 18, 2011

random fact day

Today I thought I would share a random fact about myself. I picked this specific fact to share because I noticed it the other day and thought it was pretty funny and so ME. When I get stressed out or overwhelmed I talk. Out loud. And a lot. I noticed it this weekend as Sara and I were trying to plan a little Easter Brunch. Instead of going out (which would be the stress free route) we decided to cook brunch at our house. I'm a little overwhelmed just typing this. haha. We have a full menu planned: frittatas, bacon, sausage, biscuits and gravy, waffles, fruit, almond croissants, and of course mimosas! And the most stressful item on the menu for me: almond croissants. Those are AMAZING. Seriously. Melt in your mouth, flakey yumminess. But they take 2 days to make. Lots of rolling and folding of dough. O man, a lot of time and effort go into these. But they have been requested for Easter, and I will do my best to deliver. Even though the requester will be on a crazy diet which means she won't be able to eat them (not cool).

And even though the croissants will be my main responsibility I also need to help purchase and prepare the other food, clean the house, and of course decorate for Easter!! And I need to practice my hostess of the mostess skills. Eeeek!!

So, in order to organize my thoughts and my to-do list, I talk it out. Right now, I talk it out with Sara. Well not really with her, more at her. I am sure she is thinking "ok, we've gone over this a million times now" but I need to do it so I can wrap my brain around it all. Sometimes writing it out helps (hence the chalk board in the kitchen) but sometimes I need to just talk. Matt has been subject to this many times. One word: wedding. Poor guy. I am sure I talked his ear off trying to figure out the menu, the location, the vendors, etc. There was a ton to be mentally organized. And he hung in there and was supportive through all my chatterbox days. Thanks baby!

So if you ever see or hear me doing this, just nod your head and pretend to care while I talk you to death. We all have our quirks, this one is definitely all me.

Friday, April 15, 2011

my love homework: post-it

One of my favorite blogs, Man Wife Dog Blog, had this really great idea: weekly love homework. We all know that marriage is work, hard work, yet rewarding work. You are constantly learning new things, in fact I don't think you could ever learn enough. Things are always changing, people are constantly evolving, your relationship is always different. You need to find ways to stay on top of it all, to spread the love around, to make your partner feel valued. I am always in need of new wifey skills, so I thought I should definitely enroll in the love challenge. I know I will have to get extra creative since my hubby is deployed, and I may not be able to participate in all the weekly assignments, but figured I should still give it a go!!

Assignment #1: write a little message on a post-it for your husband and leave it somewhere he will find it. My post-it for Matty:



The "somewhere" I left it: his inbox. I emailed it to him, making sure he will get it right when he wakes up, or right when he checks his email for the day. And his response: "Aww that's so nice! Thank you! Love you baby!". I'll venture to say it was a nice way to start the day. Little love note in your inbox.

The story behind the note: There are a million things I could write on a post it for him. I had to think for a while about what I really wanted to tell him. I chose to remind him of our wedding and how true the lyrics of the song he sang me are. Every day, even though he is not here, I love him more. Our love grows and changes in ways that we never expected. We have had to find interesting and new ways to communicate because of the distance, and so far it is all working rather well. I would definitely say our relationship is stronger today than when we got married, that we love each other more today than the day we got married. And our love will continue to grow every day for the rest of our lives. It gives me the warm and fuzzies! :)

Do you want to participate in the love homework too? Click on the badge below and join in!!

Wednesday, April 13, 2011

military life wednesday: feeling the love

I have a love tank and it is full! It is probably overflowing a bit right now. Let me explain: all of us have a "love tank", kinda like a gas tank, or a jar. When its full, you are happy and content. You feel appreciated by your family and friends, you enjoy every day of your life and you spread the love around. Your love tank can be filled up all sorts of ways. Spending time with your favorite people, going on a trip with someone special, hearing "I love you" or just snuggling on the couch. When deployment first started, I felt a little empty. I was missing Matt and all the little things we did together. I honestly didn't think I would be truly happy again until he returned. But lately, my love tank has been extra full and here is why: 

  • I have amazing friends. I hear horror stories about how when your husband gets deployed you will find out who your true friends are. That not everyone will be able to handle the situation and your friendships may suffer. Thank God I have not had that happen to me. If anything, my friends have stepped up more! They have made sure to call me and include me and support me in any way they can. We go out for drinks, hang out on the weekend, dance at In Cahoots! I do not feel alone at all and I am so glad they are all a part of my life.
  • I have the best husband in the world. He is perfect, for me. My Mom said it best, "you hit the lotto with him". Yep, in the game of Life, I hit the jackpot when I found Matty and convinced him to marry me. :) He loves me for me, tells me how special I am all the time, and spoils me rotten. He does all the right things to make me feel loved, every single day. Even from far away he communicates his love and devotion. He makes time to call me when I need him to, he responds to my gazillion emails (seriously, I write A LOT), and he sends me flowers! All important, all appreciated. Thanks baby!
  • I have a super supportive family. Thanks family! They do all sorts of amazing things to show their love. Perfect example: right after Matt left I got a package in the mail from Jen and Jim! They went out of their way to put something together for me. A cute purse,candy, a book, face masks, and a beautiful card. That really meant a lot. I really felt the love, and I really needed it at that time. My mom is super awesome in this area too. She is always sending me cute cards and calling me just to chit chat. And she loves to come and visit! Nothing says I love you like quality time together. It's nice to know you have a great family that is there for you when you need them.

All of these things, added up, has my love tank overflowing. Despite the deployment, I love life. I would not change a thing. I know this deployment will make my marriage stronger. I know I will be a more confident and independent woman. I know I will have a better relationship with my sister. I know I will have more friends, true friends, best friends. I am happy. Thank you to all of you who have made me feel this way. Thank you for being you.

look at all the love filling up my jar <3

Tuesday, April 12, 2011

the terrifying tongs

I think the video speaks for itself. Enjoy!!



Sweetie, I hope you enjoyed the video. Love you and miss you!!!

Sunday, April 10, 2011

the big reveal

For months Sara has been trying to convince me to cut my hair. She wanted me to chop it off, a lot off. I was too scared. But last week as I was cruising the Internet reading random articles I found one on spring haircuts and Jennifer Aniston's new do really spoke to me. I could actually picture my hair like that. And I was excited! So I did it. I chopped a good 6 inches off the back. eek!! And I sent Matt some pictures from my phone and he approved! Yay!! 


Today Sara, Jenna and I went out to La Jolla and PB and took some photos. Here are some pictures of my new hair and beautiful San Diego:





Miss Jenna

love this pic

love the reflection in my sunnies

The things I love about having short hair: I can actually round brush blow dry it! finally! I use much less shampoo and I really don't need leave in conditioner anymore. It does its own thing and I don't have to constantly worry about how it looks. Its bouncy. :) It doesn't get stuck under my purse straps anymore. woo hoo! 





Friday, April 8, 2011

sneak peak friday

Last night I made a change...



Uh oh.....what does this mean? That looks pretty serious......more pictures and a full blog post to come later. :)

Thursday, April 7, 2011

just because

I just can't stop smiling right now!! I feel so special :).  As I am sitting at work minding my own business, "working", I get a mail delivery. FLOWERS!!! All for me, for no reason at all! awww....how sweet. I actually started laughing right away too because as you see in the post below I was hinting at flowers. But Matt hasn't even seen that yet and had no idea I was writing that. Great minds think alike.

To my wonderful husband: Good job baby!! I love you and I miss you so much and these definitely made me feel better. They are absolutely beautiful and such a great surprise!! And they came with a really cool pink vase. I love it!! You really are the best husband in the world. Can't wait for our phone date tonight ;). I love you!!!

so pretty!!
me and the flowers :)

matt's favorite way we keep in touch

When the deployment first started Matt and I promised to keep in touch by emailing often (probably every day), calling once a week while he was out to sea, and every day when he was in port. Of course I would also send him packages and I was looking forward to flowers every now and again (ahem. cough cough). So far we have kept to that. I email him all. the. time. Seriously. Because of the time difference, I am at work while he is sleeping. And since I need to occupy my time with something, emailing Matty has become my favorite activity. And by the time Matt gets up I am home. So when he responds, I email him from my phone. Works out pretty well. Although I am concerned that I may strain a finger at some point from all the phone typing, but that's ok, its the price I will pay.

But Matt's favorite emails to receive are the ones without words....pictures. My phone camera has come in quite handy (altho not great quality). Whenever I feel the need, or when Harley is doing something cute or funny, I snap a picture and email it to Matty. He loves it. He feels like part of the group. Well sometimes it makes him feel sad, but its also something that can cheer him up. He can save them and go back and look at them anytime. I only wish he had a camera cell phone so he could snap pictures of himself and email them to me! I only get to see the ones the ship posts on facebook and Matt usually tries to avoid the camera. Baby, get out there and get your picture taken! :)

Here are a few of my favs:

sooo sleepy

couch cuddles

Sonny dominating Harley

he got stuck in the tub

nap time

Wednesday, April 6, 2011

military life wednesday: spouse resources

Today I thought I would share a few useful websites for the military spouses out there. When Matt and I first met I was constantly scouring the Internet for information about being a military wife. I wanted to know what I was getting myself into. Was it for me? Could I handle it? I spent a lot of time reading books and articles online. They were written by military spouses for military spouses. It really helped me navigate my way through the military maze. It is information I still use today and share with other wives when I have the chance. So, here are a couple of my go-to sites.

As a military spouse, the one thing you can always count on is moving, a lot. This website was recommended to me by a friend and I love the idea. Spouses helping spouses. It is still new, so it is still adding information and resources daily. If you join (its free!), you can help add in your favorite places to eat, shop, or visit. There are recommendations for doctors, daycares, schools, etc. The more people that join and contribute, the better the site. Check it out:

http://www.youhaveorders.com/

A while back I told you about this great book Married to the Military, well there is a website that goes with it. It is full of information and resources! It has a ton of great articles about all things military: deployment, relocation, your career, money, benefits, etc. You can share information and ask questions in their forums too. Take a look:

http://cinchouse.com/

There is also a website that accompanies the magazine Military Spouse. It also has a ton of really great articles about military life. I see this magazine at the commissary all the time and usually read through it while waiting to check out. If you are a writer, and you have something you want to share with other spouses, submit an article! Definitely a good resource:

http://www.milspouse.com/default.aspx

Feel free to take a look at these sites and share them with your friends. I also highly recommend following spouse blogs. They give their honest opinions about deployment and separation, relocation, the places they live, etc. You definitely do not feel so alone when you know someone is going through the same things you are. And since most are public, you can secretly stalk. :)

Monday, April 4, 2011

weekend highlight: bridal shower

Saturday I attended my first official bridal shower. Yep, first. Nope, I never had one. I had a "lingerie" shower in Vegas for my bachelorette party (which was awesome btw) but never a full blown bridal shower. This one was for my bestie Jessica. And let me tell you, it lived up to all my expectations!

Kim and I carpooled up to Irvine, spending the whole car ride talking and rocking out to Britney Spears new CD. Good times. It was a solid hour and a half ride and we arrived right on time! There were a few other guests hanging around when we got there, and about 15 minutes later the lady of the hour arrived: Miss Jessica! We all said hello, then quickly helped ourselves to some champagne. It is a celebration after all. After some chit chat time lunch was served. And boy did they have a great spread! All kinds of yummy finger food, pasta from Olive Garden, cupcakes, a chocolate fountain, I could go on. In fact, I need to stop because it is making me hungry. I made sure to try everything. I basically had no self control. Good thing I made it to boot camp that morning or I would have felt super guilty. This way, I only felt a tad guilty. :) I was stuffed and happy by the time we all sat down to watch Jessica open gifts.

She got all sorts of wonderful things! Bedding, pie plates, china, ice cream maker, and much more. I see lots of cooking in her future. Hopefully I can benefit from that (hint hint Jessica). We also played a fabulous game of 20 questions with her. Jess had to answer a bunch of questions about Joe and if she was wrong she had to eat a gumball. hilarious. And painful to watch sometimes, mostly because I've been there too. But it creates good funny, sticky memories.

After the gift opening was complete most people went home. A few of us stuck around for a while longer and talked in the kitchen. Boy was that a bad idea. That only lead to more grazing. Graze. Talk. Graze. Talk. I also managed to pack a to-go baggie. Had to save some for later! And finally, I put on a brief fashion show for the younger ladies. Kerrie (MOH) picked up my bridesmaid dress for me, and I was anxious to see how it looked! Its looks great! Color = fabulous. Style = me (we all got to pick our own). They are perfect for the wedding. loves it. I proceeded to try and dance around, which lead to me running into a bed, which has resulted in a pretty awesome bruise. A party favor. LOL. After I stopped dancing around like a fool and put my other outfit back on, Kim and I made our way back to San Diego.

Overall, the shower was a success. A huge success. For Jessica and all her guests. I know I had a blast! I took lots of notes too (I see many more bridal showers and baby showers in my future). Kerrie and Jenni did an amazing job decorating, all the little touches were perfect. I will store these ideas for future use. Great way to spend a Saturday!

Congratulations Jessica and Joe!!

Friday, April 1, 2011

Reflections of Motherhood

A friend of mine posted this video on facebook the other day. I think it is really awesome and probably very true. I am sure I will appreciate this a lot more and be even more emotional watching it when we have a little one of our own.

For all the Moms and soon to be Moms, enjoy the video: Reflections of Motherhood.