Sunday, August 25, 2013

friendship dating

The other day a friend of mine posted a link to an article about friendship dating. I read it and wondered how on earth I never posted anything like that before. Lord knows I go through it each and every time we move. Especially this last time to Monterey. It was the first time in a long time that I was in a town where I didn't know anyone. (Ok, we knew one other family, but that was it) Yes my family was close by, but not "hey I'm coming over for dinner, see you in 5" close. And since I was a new mommy I wanted some mommy friends. More than just acquaintances, friends. 

As most of you know, military or not, once you are out of school it is HARD to make new friends. People have their established little groups and it is not easy to get invited in. And if you are lucky enough to get extended an invite, it takes a long time to feel comfortable with the group. And now that I am a SAHM, it is even harder to make friends. 

When we moved to DC, I got a job. And there I met one of my best friends Meredith. We worked in the same area, were close to the same age, both engaged, a lot in common. And we bonded immediately. It was meant to be. We could talk about anything and everything for hours, and we did. haha. It made living in a strange new town easier. 

When we moved back to San Diego I had a whole established group of people I knew from college. The pressure to make new friends wasn't there. If I met cool people, great, but it wasn't necessary. 

And then we moved to Monterey. No ship. No college friends. No job. 

After settling in I quickly started going stir crazy. I needed something to do with my time, besides running errands and playing with the baby. I needed adult interaction. After some internet perusing I found Stroller Strides. A group of Moms and their babies that get together and exercise. Perfect. I needed to get back into the workout scene anyways. So I signed up and started attending classes. And I met some really awesome Moms. But it isn't immediate and it definitely isn't easy. I am actually pretty shy. I have gotten better the older I get (and the more I drink), but when I don't know people I am really quiet. Observant. But that can easily come across as bitchy. I don't intend it to, but it can. And I am sure you can see how that goes over real well with other women. :) 

Perfect example: I recently started taking Charlotte to swim class. In the class there are 3 other Moms that are similar in age to me and all have little girls around Charlotte's age. My first thought was: new friends! Play dates! But for some reason they all bonded immediately, and not with me. hmmm. So one day when they were all circled up talking I swam over with Charlotte and we played near them. In my mind I was screaming "hi! Talk to me!" but trying to play it cool. I would ask a question here or there or say something relevant to the conversation at various points, but I never got a warm and inviting feeling. Mostly I just felt awkward, like I was trying too hard. And seeing as there are just two classes left, I doubt any solid friendships will be made here. Oh well. Could I have been more outgoing? Yes I suppose I could. But it is really hard to put yourself out there.

I am sure the whole process of friendship dating will become easier and smoother over time. And the more and more we move. Getting out of my comfort zone is key, but who likes that?! (guess I better learn to LOVE it!) Really, I just hope someone looks over, sees my smiling face, and breaks the ice first. It is smooth sailing from there. 

Thursday, August 22, 2013

sneak peak: birthday party prep

It has been craft central over here for a while now, and I thought I would do a little sneak peak of some of the things I have been prepping for Charlotte's birthday party. We are getting super excited!!!





In just over two weeks our baby girl will turn the big 1!! We can't wait to celebrate with our family and friends :)

Thursday, August 15, 2013

GGMA's Bday weekend: SF

At the end of July we took a trip to SF and spent the weekend in the city with Grandma and Rachel to celebrate Grandma's 75th birthday! We stayed at the Donatello hotel, walking distance to Union Square and all the restaurants and shops. We had a great time playing "tourist" all weekend long. 

Instead of driving up the 101, we took the scenic route on the 1 through Half Moon Bay, right along the coast.  It was beautiful. Totally worth the drive. We arrived around lunch time, settled in to the hotel and hit up Grandma's favorite bar for lunch, Lefty O'Doul's. Yummy. We spent the rest of the afternoon hanging out and enjoying each other's company. 




Later that night Matt, Charlotte, and I walked a few blocks and met up with some of my high school friends. We hadn't seen each other in probably 10 years or more, and since they were both living in the city, it was the perfect opportunity for a get together. And they wanted to snuggle Miss C. We had a wonderful dinner at Farmer Brown. The fried chicken with Mac n Cheese....YUM! And it was so much fun to catch up! Only wished we all lived closer so we could get together more often.

On Saturday we did the double decker bus tour. Besides it being crowded on the buses, it was awesome! We picked it up in Union Square, and hopped off at Haight and Ashbury. Matt had never been and we wanted to grab a bite to eat and do a little shopping.

on the bus

birthday girl!

city hall


Rachel

largest tie-dye tshirt!

mmm ice cream

haight and ashbury

mmm chocolate!!

ooo it tastes so good when it hits your lips. mmmm


her new tie dye dress!

Our next stop was the golden gate bridge. Neither Matt nor I had ever walked across it before, and it was a really cool experience. Breathtaking. Huge. Magnificent. A Must see.



looking at the boats



kinda reminds me of ET :)
That night we had dinner at a delicious Italian restaurant. And right out front was a huge scale. Of course we all hopped on, even Charlotte!

22lbs!


passed out


On Sunday GGMA was kind enough to babysit Charlotte for a few hours while Matt and I hit the town. We cruised Union Square and did a little shopping. It was really nice to get a few hours alone and pick up some much needed items.

Then we were off on our next tourist adventure. First up: Coit Tower.

windy!


downtown


at the top!



Then we headed over to Pier 39, where we had drinks and dinner at The Fish House. And for dessert, my all time favorite.....MINI DONUTS!! I love donuts, as most of you know, and these little cinnamon sugar beauties are to die for. mmmmm. LOVE.


It was a wonderful weekend! So nice to get away for a mini trip and see a lot more of the city. And I am so happy we got to spend Grandma's birthday weekend with her! Happy 75th GGMA! We love you!!

Thursday, August 8, 2013

happy 11 months Charlotte!!

Charlotte,

Today you are 11 months old. Only one more month until your very first birthday! It seems like time passes so much faster these days. Maybe it is because you keep me so busy....you empty the tupperware drawer, I put it all back. Or maybe it is because we are traveling and visiting family all the time. Whatever the reason, I wish I could just bottle up this time with you and save it for later. Someday, when you are a big girl getting ready for your first day of school, or when you are so independent you don't "need" your Mommy anymore, I would open it up and treasure the time with my little monkey.  



You now weigh in at approximately 22.5lbs and are 29.5 inches long. And constantly into everything......
emptying the tupperware drawer
You are growing so much that you have pretty much reached the limits of your infant car seat. It's a bit of a tight squeeze getting you in right now (especially when you are wearing a cloth diaper), and you are about an inch away from the limit of the seat. So Mommy has been researching and reading up and trying to pick out a new seat for you. Looks like we might be getting you a car seat for your birthday! haha. That's a good gift right? :)

This month you got to meet your Aunt Karen! She flew out all the the way from Connecticut to come see you. She spent a long weekend at our house, where we did all the wonderful California things. Wine tasting, bonfire on the beach, Aquarium. It was a blast! 





This month we took a trip to SF for GGma's birthday. We spent three days and nights enjoying the city and doing all the fun touristy activities (more on this trip in the next post). 


at pier 39


your hippie dress from SF. so cute!

And during that trip you accomplished something really special......

You took your first steps!! While we were sitting in the hotel room just hanging out, we helped you stand up, then you took two steps forward and promptly sat down and clapped your hands. I know you will be walking by your first birthday. You just need a little more time to get steady on your feet. Build up that confidence. You are really great at walking while holding onto something, and have started standing unsupported for at least 30 seconds. And since you are so close to walking, I bought you the cutest little shoes at Target.....


You have huge feet and have outgrown all the shoes we were gifted before you were born....you are in a size 5 already! 

mmm rock


Just this week we started taking swim classes at the local sports center. You love bath time and water, so we thought you would love a dedicated 30 minutes in the pool twice a week. We were right. You love it. We sing songs, splash around and play with rubber duckies, what's not to love? Well actually you aren't too fond of getting water in your face or floating on your back, so this class will hopefully get you more comfortable with both. Plus, Daddy is really hoping you will follow in his footsteps and become a champion swimmer! 


getting ready for class!


hanging out in the blow up pool in our yard


harley watching over your pool time

You also got another tooth this month! That makes a total of 5! You weren't fussy or bothered by it at all. The only reason I thought you might be getting a tooth is because your pee smelled terrible. Apparently that is a sign of teething....who knew?! 


You are quite the talker these days. Chatter Babble Babble SCREAM! It is hilarious. No more peaceful afternoons around this house.



sharing your cheerios with Harley
open close open close

Your wonderful personality is revealed a little more every day. You are a curious, smart and very happy little girl. You are definitely a Mamas girl, at least for now. But seeing you get excited and giggly when Daddy comes home is the best. And your scream, reserved specifically for Harley, is adorable. And you sure do love music! Anytime we play music in the house, which is often, your whole body starts to wiggle and you get the biggest smile on your face. 


Here you are doing some standing and dancing to Bruno Mars :)

showing me the leaf
standing girl

We wouldn't trade you for the world. We love you so much baby girl!

Love always,
Mommy and Daddy